I've thought about stuff like that a lot, recently actually. After 14 years of serial monogamy I'm trying out this whole "dating" thing and so far I'm enjoying spending time with different people witout too much obligation hanging over it. I have, however, wondered what would happen if I were to decide I was ready to do more than "just date" or whether or not that even comes up with people that do the "just dating" thing. The only conclusion I've come to in my own situation is that when something needs to happen I will know and I can trust my instincts as long as I'm being calm and methodical about listening to them. You are a very reasonable person and, as far as I've seen, you don't let your emotions rule you. I think you are safe to follow your "heart" or "instincts" or whatever you want to call them. If you are crushy over someone, take a leap, see what happens. If you just aren't feeling that way about someone, trust that too. And you didn't respond to my guesses....which I know were wrong. ;)
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Date: 2002-08-13 11:56 am (UTC)The only conclusion I've come to in my own situation is that when something needs to happen I will know and I can trust my instincts as long as I'm being calm and methodical about listening to them.
You are a very reasonable person and, as far as I've seen, you don't let your emotions rule you. I think you are safe to follow your "heart" or "instincts" or whatever you want to call them. If you are crushy over someone, take a leap, see what happens. If you just aren't feeling that way about someone, trust that too.
And you didn't respond to my guesses....which I know were wrong. ;)