Cancellations

[kingrat]

 I have a general rule of thumb: the person who cancels on something with me is the person whose responsibility it is to reschedule.  If I have something come up that requires me to cancel on lunch with a friend, it's on me to propose a new date or time.  If someone cancels on me, I'm not going to chase them down for a new date.

This update brought to you buy two people canceling on me earlier this week, and one last week.  I'm disappointed they didn't reschedule, but I have to take that as a possible sign they aren't interested in spending time with me.  I will not be the douchebro who can't take hints.

Comments

[rimrunner]

I use pretty much the same rule.

What's your take on people who show up if you do the inviting/arranging, but don't reciprocate? Much as it pains me to admit it, there are a few longtime friends who, while I don't doubt they still care, seem to have made it pretty clear where I rank priority-wise. It's rough.

[kingrat]

I don't have any particular take on that because it depends on the person. Some folks are really anxious about arranging things, so I need to be the person who does it. Others it indicates I am low on the priority list.

My thing about not rescheduling when someone else cancels isn't because I think cancelling and not rescheduling is a bad thing. It's that not rescheduling is a signal that I need to pay attention to.

[rimrunner]

That makes sense.